We have a big decision to make soon. We knew my body would have some damage from having pregnancies back to back. After Josie was born and I was getting stitched back up Dr. Gordon gave me some bad news. "Your uterus is very thin. There is so much scar tissue there's practically nothing to sew together. Your risk of uterine rupture is very high now." He didn't say we couldn't have any more children, just that he would not deliver them.
-Get a second opinion? How? He was the only surgeon, and an ultrasound can't detect scar tissue.
-Wait 5 years and see if my body heals? again, how would we know after 5 years the condition of it (without surgery), and what if we got pregnant before then? We don't want to put ourselves in the position of having to choose between a child's life and my own.
It's such a bittersweet time in our home right now. Being faced with the very real possibility of never being pregnant again (feeling that little one move inside me), having a permanent method of birth control at only 24, and only having 3 children.
---But celebrating in the 3 very healthy happy children we have been blessed with, and savoring the joys of being their parents and watching them learn and grow and love.
And thankfully, we were somewhat prepared for the news. We discussed adoption a month or so ago. Some people have the opinion that you don't adopt if you can become pregnant and have your own children. However, we are of the opinion that if we can provide the home that child deserves then we adopt. We couldn't do it for many more years and would possibly foster before adopting, but we have it for consideration.
We need to get to the temple, soon!
5 comments:
Hey Guys, I don't completely understand what you are going through but I wanted to let you know that I love you both and from the things that my family has gone through, I wanted to give my advise. Be so thankful that you could have children and you have them. Also that adopting can bring you so many blessings too. I love both and I know you will might the right decision and you Kira and your family.
Oh, Kira, that is quite a lot to think about. You'll be in our prayers as you navigate this new landscape.
Wow Kira! that is a lot to think about!!! I agree... go to the temple!! How wonderful that Josie is doing well and that you are already up and moving around (okay, blogging...). Take care!!!
We're thinking about you. I love you - dods...
Oh, Kira...you'll make the right decision when it comes to your family, no matter which decision you make. We love you, and we're thinking about you.
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