Ben & I were having a discussion last night about perception. I told him an experience I had last week. I was loading the kids in the van and was currently working on getting Carlise in when it hit me. "I have 3 kids? Really? 3 pregnancies? Huh, doesn't seem like I've been married that long. Hmm." I still think of Ben as when we got married, he hasn't aged at all to me even though it'll be 6 years in November. I guess because we enjoy our marriage we don't notice the time. Time flies when you're having fun, right? But there are guys at his work that sound very woeful, "I've been married 7 long years." Ben told the guy the problem probably was he wasn't putting his wife first. Said if he did that, everything would be a lot more enjoyable. The guy hadn't even thought of that and acknowledged, "you're probably right." I do know it brings a sweet spirit in our home when we're focusing on our spouses needs instead of our own. And there's something very special about hearing your spouse ask Heavenly Father to bless you for a specific need.
As great as it is focusing on your spouses need instead of your own, I still think there are those few times when you do have to focus on your own, so you don't affect the whole family in a negative way. Just my experience.
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I agree, even though I don't have any kids per say yet, but I do know that when I focus on Rockey and he focuses on my needs, our marriage grows by miles. :) Good thought.
Yeah, that is a strange realization! I was just thinking back to when I first met you! You and Ben had been married a grand total of 4 months! I'm so glad you guys are so happy :).
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